"I am not trying to offer my own "interpretation" of reality. I am trying to figure out how to share my best understanding of what worked and why. I don't assume it will merely stop there. And I am trying to figure out how to cross the chasm of communication. However, when I make sincere efforts to try to find out what I need to do to get there from here, the most common result is dismissive and hostile personal attacks, not useful feedback."
My point is, as an individual point of data, you are unable prove that what you did had anything to do with the end result.
"I remain at an impasse, unable to develop the site in a manner satisfactory to those who feel it is inadequate and feel that is sufficient justification for ugly ad hominems."
Well, without proper research methods and controls being employed, it is tough to extrapolate the experience to others.
"Most people either wish to paint me as a potential savior, who can magically get them well without this communication process"
Could it be possible that you are fitting into this mold, where your condition is varying as your expectations shift?