>> How is it possible to give someone something, or to do something for their benefit, and still feel like you were the recipient?
That sounds dangerously like helping someone in order to feel good about yourself.
But perhaps I just have trust issues...
If the issue is trust, or the fear of having it violated, doesn't that suggest that you're expecting some reciprocation? Wouldn't it be clear to you then that you're in the "favor" territory