Usually I reply in the same tone as I get talked with, I have no qualms with touchy feeling culture of modern times.
No, you're usually the initiator. Usually it's with some off-hand quip about how C programmers don't understand C, or how the people designing WebAssembly are ignorant of COM or the JVM, or how Zig is just Modula-2, etc.
Most threads you participate in aren't filled with snark until you enter them.