First of all, the public conversation is weird, because people conflate all kinds of different things under the term "AI". This term is slowly becoming meaningless, like "chemicals" or "drugs".

Secondly, your crazy uncle having dumb conversations with ChatGPT does not have any real connection, in practice, to Palantir supplying the US Military with flawed intelligence.

"How do you cope with knives being used to stab people? Your house is full of these weapons, that create so much suffering! You're basically guilty by proxy of all stabbing crimes. You should feel bad!"