proof you don't really need a government or state in order to have rules and order. this seems like a win for anarchism and a point against statism.
It’s proof of the opposite of your conjecture.
Anarchy always rapidly evolves in to government.
Whoever, or whichever group, performs the making, administering, and enforcement of rules, is the government.
but regardless, if you want to call the state in anarchism where people collectively form together to create rules and order "government", be my guest
You’re wrong.
When you go out in to the world you’re learn that for yourself.
Amy group of humans who think they can run things ”collectively” is always immediately over run by those who know they can’t.
What are you talking about? You can most certainly get kicked off BM, you can get criminally charged, etc.