I am Swedish and understand the relationship between our government and the various agencies. Elected people make laws to direct the agencies, and the agencies implement said directives.
Hungary's Orban had been in power for 16 years and if he'd won the election it would've been impossible to ever remove him.
Trump will be gone in two years. And even he can be removed if Congress wills it.
Europe came tantalizingly close to an authoritarian regime with Orban.
And yes Orban is an exception, the average tenure of a prime minister in parliamentary democracies is considerably shorter than that of US presidents.
Erdogan is only (barely) tolerated because Turkiye is an important strategic asset in the Middle-East and controls access to the Black Sea. For Europe there's also the controlling of migrants to be considered.