* Hold on to that isolating feeling. Those of us who feel AI is an incredible accelerator also feel just as isolated as you do. We wonder why you aren't seeing what we are seeing - and that isn't criticism, we just genuinely don't understand where the gap is and what would help other people jump across.
* I wouldn't bother looking at GitHub, or using that as any kind of measure. Personally getting away from all dependencies is my goal, and avoids a lot of supply chain issues.
* I don't use any plugins or external skills. I do use a ton of self built local MCP tools though, and it drives much of my workflow. That's me though.
* You sometimes need to work up to it. I've had periods of hitting a wall this year with LLMs. Once I end up building a framework, and the framework is in place, everything flows. The models can learn from looking at your adjacent projects, and they just fly. That's for coding, but it's similar for solving other problems... record everything, give it a ton of context, etc.
* If the software "kinda works kinda doesn't", then someone isn't doing enough testing. You should be dogfooding your software every day. Use your AIs to help you find edge cases, sure, but they're alien minds. Your human mind will sometimes think in ways they don't, but that your customers will. Sometimes we write software for AI to use, sure, but if you're writing for humans, you still should add some human mind thinking just to double check the model's work. "That's right, it goes in the square hole."
It's okay to struggle, some of us have been building toolkits over the last two years that make AI work so much easier. But don't get sucked into thinking "it doesn't work", especially in the Opus 5.5 era. On my side of the fence, these last two weeks have been the most intense and productive in a long time.
Lastly: some of us have tips we will not share. Some is slight selfishness - if others haven't discovered what the models can do, that is a small moat. But there are also some tips you just have to find on your own. I could tell you playing The Witness is some of the best training you could have for working with AI, and many will think that makes no sense at all. But I think a handful will nod and quietly understand, the lesson can't be taught, it must be learned.
Sorry for the long ramble, but I genuinely hope some of that helps.