I hope AI will push infra, including good-enough AI itself, dirt cheap, so that everyone has "good enough" software for themselves. Tailscale is a game changer in this regard but only the first step.
This is probably considerably less true in countries with a smaller ip to population ratio e.g. india.
the complaint is the communication, not the literal words. because the title conflicts with itself, it causes confusion.
for example, saying, "come join us. I'm hosting a dinner party. It's at this restaurant," would be similar.
It's perfectly reasonable and understandable to say you're hosting the party even if you don't own the physical location (see also: weddings)
What reality are we in?! The name of the thing literally contradicts the term. You are using a HOSTING PROVIDER. Somebody other than yourself is providing the hosting!
If I use my old laptop to host stuff is fine. What if I live in an apartment building and a good neighbor has a big server and let's other poeple use it and host stuff on it. I have my own vm, etc. Does that count as self-hosting? I would say yes. What if I rent bare metal from a provider?
In my view self-hosting doesn't end at the boundary of my apartment.
As I said previously, everything comes down to trust. If I don't want to run my stack on someone else's computer because I don't know if they will be a good s steward of my data that's valid, and I should own my own hardware.