Poe's Law[0] strikes again, eh?
If you're going to say nothing can be done, then okay, the people who want something better will just move to live with each other in a community where this kind of problem doesn't exist, and do everything they can to keep it from following them. They can be happy that they have their standards, and you can be happy that you have yours.
So, by you are those the only two outcomes? Dump/warehouse disruptive kids and deny them any opportunity to become productive members of society before they even hit puberty, or let them run hog wild and burn down the schools?
I'd expect there's some middle ground here that doesn't include either giving up on children just because they're having socialization issues or putting those children in charge of the school.
Do I have all the answers? No. But if you're going to advocate for throwing away children because they misbehave, why stop there? That's not a rhetorical question.
If we're looking at things realistically, some of these children are violent. Yes, those should absolutely be removed and possibly locked in a facility if they can't be controlled. It's unfortunate, but the alternative is allowing everyone else to be harmed, for what exactly? Because you cannot face the reality that they are not going to suddenly turn into a saint and develop an interest in curing cancer when they grow up?
This is the definition of conservatism. It's not a problem as long as it's not your family suffering.
If you had a "problem child" you'd be singing a different tune about how acceptable it was to discard them.
I don't have a problem child. Neither do any of my neighbors. In fact it's apparently normal for 20% of my local school to test at the 99th percentile on state tests, and they're extremely polite. Weird. My wife's volunteering to lead our local girl scout troop and helps regularly at the school. It seems we're doing our part, so I'm really not sure what else you would like.
It's been a problem for literally millennia. This hardly unique to 21st century america.
Yes, I'm glad you don't have a "problem child". That's genuinely great, I wish everyone was that lucky.
What I would like, in the smallest possible way, is some shred of empathy for people who aren't as lucky as you are. Perhaps you could practice the concept of "walking a mile in another man's shoes" and make an attempt to understand what they're dealing with instead of dismissing them as inferior.
I'm also happy your wife is volunteering to help with girl scouts. I think that's a great thing and more people should do it.
But that doesn't excuse your lack of empathy.
Kids are not some kind of deterministic automatons where the same input always produces the same output (as if we could even reproduce the same inputs for an entire life). They're more complicated than that for reasons we frankly can't even understand.
There are a number of things that are highly correlated with producing a "good child", a major one being having enough money that the family isn't under constant stress and you can afford second (or third or fourth) chances.
But callously discarding every child who isn't lucky enough to benefit from this is just wrong. We, as a society, a culture, should be better than that.
Am I expecting you, personally, to go out and change the world? No, no more than I'm expecting myself to do it. But we all make small decisions every day and if enough of us make the "right ones" they can add up, and it starts with empathy for our fellow man.
We do our part, and we've decided to live in an area where others also do their part and try to build a community and a society, and not in an area where people tear down the community around them, or make excuses for those who do that. Again, what exactly are you chiding me for? What should I be doing differently? It's not us keeping them down. We're gone.
Are you familiar with the phrase "pulling up the ladder behind you"?
This isn't pulling the ladder up behind me. It's noticing a ladder, climbing out of a pit, and walking away. Ladder's still right there. Meanwhile others are asking why we don't try to make ourselves more comfortable in the pit.
I would argue that their outcomes in general would still be worse off then their lesser funded counterparts.
Anyways, I'm not taking the position that we shouldn't "remove" "problem children" in the same way I agree that prisons are necessary for society.
I guess if I had to summarize my feelings on this matter in this tiny little text box, it's that while this option should exist, we should all feel shame, a sense of failure, every time we have to exercise it.
We should ask ourselves, collectively, what we could have done differently to prevent the situation from coming to this point.
It's theoretically possible that there was nothing that could be done, but people are way to willing too just leap to that conclusion.
As an extension of that, we should at least pretend a modicum of empathy for our fellow humans. People are... people. They're complicated. Nobody is good or bad. They certainly do good things and bad things, and at some point, given our current society/technology/culture/understanding of the world, our best option might be to put them in prison for the rest of their life, but that doesn't mean we should be happy about it.
Like, I get it, you have a child, you have incredibly strong feelings about how to protect and nurture this child, both biologically/genetically as well as an ingrained cultural response. You want to do the best you possibly can for your child, even if it comes at the expense of everyone else's child.
But society improves when we raise the standards for everyone.
I'm not asking that this guy go out and sell all his possessions and march in the streets or whatever extreme example you want to think of. I'm certainly not doing that either. Just remember that "problem kids" are children just as much deserving of love and respect and help as your child.