> If someone is coming off as superior to you then you should probably figure out why

You really shouldn't. The weight of the message should never come from the attitude of the messenger. If the "superiority" of the other person is what gives importance to the message then you're in "appeal to authority" fallacy territory. Analyze the message, if you think it carries weight, dig deeper into the content. The attitude is just a distraction. If you have enough time analyzing everyone's attitude imagine how much more you could achieve if you only focused on the substance.