Folks who parrot the same are just a symptom of the underlying epidemic that permeates the ecosystem.
Some of their engineering deficiencies just happen to be masked by integration with better hardware.
For example, the iOS mmap limit is stupid and ridiculous. But it paved the way for us to work around the restriction by rebuilding Dip's architecture, resulting in a better, more simplified mental model along with increased performance and parallelism.
These benefits are applicable cross-platform and not just for Apple's OS. This subsequently also acted as an indirect but causal trigger to later build our own KV engine: Singularity.
Thus my experience with Apple has been bittersweet. The frustration with their ecosystem and their stupidity was beneficial in hindsight.
I am torn halfway between pitying and thanking them.