That sucks though.
You can tell that something has happened to them, but its ephemeral, because its psychological, and what do all of us do when we don't understand someone ?
We dismiss them. We other them. We isolate them. We walk away.
Not as a group decision, but the outcome of our collective individual decisions.
Abuse someone long enough, psychologically, and if they are not educated and self-aware, their behavior becomes erratic and they lose all social support.
It's not unlike veterans of a war, who understand what each other went through, when the public doesn't.
Unfortunately, our society is really good about detecting people who are "acting weird" - and some people decide to harass or bully the weird ones. Feeling like you are being stalked makes it very difficult to act "normally" in all circumstances, which increases the odds on any subsequent outing that somebody will notice and act toward you in a way that's undesirable.
It still sucks, what is happening to these people. But it's not a coordinated malicious campaign against them in particular. It's like you say - the outcome of our collective individual decisions. For most of them, there never was any "targeting."
How did you reach this conclusion ?
> Unfortunately, our society is really good about detecting people who are "acting weird"
Yes, and I can cause you to act wierd, by projecting a false reality onto you.
Alot of what happened to me, happened in the bar my classmate worked at. We were "supposed to be working on music" together, but that was just his cover story. I would go to the bar where he works to talk to him about our project, and he would text his friends/actors to come and act out scripts with me, and in front of me. He controlled the narrative this way. Afterwards, I would reflect upon the events, and how I felt about it.
Just as one example, he had a woman pretend to be interested in me. Then, after investing time in talking to her, taking her to dinner, etc. she publicly humiliated me in the bar. The goal is emotional destablization.
Make you happy, pull the rug, make you sad.
One of the people in charge of county EMS operations aka camera monitoring, happens to be a female, and the bartender had her sit next to me and pretend to be interested in me as well on another occasion. I found her employment info later using google searches to connect the dots.
The terms for people who behave this way are "malignant narcissists" and the tactic is "intermitent reinforcement."
Sincerely, you should probably get back in touch with a medical professional you trust. Maybe I'm reading this situation all wrong, and you really do have dozens of unpaid "actors" spending their lives harassing you for no gain. But probably not.
Everyone has competition in life, except for you apparently.
Everyone experiences conflict in some form or another, except for you apparently.
Perhaps your appearance isn't what you make it out to be.
Also, you altered my statements to create yours. Thats the very tactic I've been explaining.
Nice try though.
"Mimetic Scapegoating, Then Mimetic Desire, Ends in Violence - Sam Vaknin"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=42LTRQKkaEs
.. scarcity of objects creates a competitive environment. And since we imitate each other, we have this herd mentality of imitating each other in our desires. This inevitably, ineluctibly gives rise to competition which easily deteriorates and devolves into violence.
Society develops the scapegoat mechanism to redirect violence in ways that are less harmful to itself which in turn inspires the invention of religion to justify sacrifice is how the encyclopedia Britannica describes the situation.
Everyone gets to laugh at the sacrifice, except the sacrifice.
Comedy and tragedy are 2 sides of the same coin, and what determines if we laugh or cry, is our own personal proximity and role in the situation.
It's funny when Dick Van Dyke trips over the foot stool.
It hurts like hell when you do it.
The Jewish community was doing just as well as anyone else in the 20's. By the 30's, propaganda had convinced everyone they were the enemy. These people experienced "normal life" right up until someone decided to make them the enemy, via psychological warfare. They woke up one day with a train ticket to Auschwitz, for "work."
Many of them no doubt, were suspicious, but they were told they were 'crazy' and that 'the government wouldn't do that, the government is here to protect us.' The problem is, that government isn't a thing. Government is a group of people, and groups of people behave irrationally and violently all the time, while laughing and carrying on about how right they were to violently destroy their fellow man.
Go to a European soccer game. Just watch how the 2 sides act towards each other. The fans will attack each other, over their emotional investment in corporations that sell t-shirts.
Try convincing a religious person that God isn't real. They'll kill you to prove you wrong. The lack of evidence either way isn't a factor in their reasoning. The only thing that matters is their personal emotional investment in the idea.
As for me seeing a "medical professional" I'm going to have to schedule a consultation for myself and my girlfriend, because she's witnessed the "acting" as well, and the same bartender used these tactics to attack her brother, right after their father died. The bartender tried the same thing when my mother died. The day after she passed, I walked into the bar, and he started up a conversation saying "Noone gives a shit about some old lady dying." He wanted me to lose my shit and get angry, like my gf's brother did. I gave him no response, because I knew he was manipulating me.
When anyone can watch a youtube video on how to manipulate people, do you really think that noone is using the information to manipulate others ?
Wouldn't a "lifelong bartender" be interested in controlling and manipulating people ? Wouldn't he be an expert at it after 20 years of working in a bar ?
I'm a computer programmer. He knows this. He knows I've spent more hours interacting with computers than people, and he thought I would be an easy target. When you know the characters involved, the behavior patterns emerge.
If said bartender was a malignant narcissist, wouldnt the environment of a bar provide him with endless narcissistic supply ? He's a god in the bar. He can make anyones evening great, or he can text his friend to start a fight and get someone arrested. This is what narcissistic supply is.
"Every Manipulation Technique & How To Combat It Explained"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbkvBLyIAzo
We really need to stop thinking that predators don't walk amongst us, when all of history tells us it has always been the case.
They sell glasses of poison for people to drink.
It was only 120 years ago Congress had to pass a law specifically prohibiting bartenders from drugging people and selling them to boat captains.
How much have people changed in 120 years, behaviorially, at the core ?
Wouldn't the same selfish psychopaths, that sold people to boat captains, still be attracted to the same bar environment, even if their tactics of fleecing people have changed ?
I just happen to have gone to school with the guy. Lucky me.