I hate to be “that guy” - but I truly believe there is a degree of so-called privilege in that perspective.

Not that I don’t value or agree with it, those soft skills are incredibly important, but one can I hope have both the soft and the hard skills.

Family and romance have evolved quite a bit in recent years - but all things equal are you wanting to marry into a family with productive skills, assets, etc? Would you pick true love with the peasant girl or marry to strengthen the alliance with Normandy? Would your answre to the latter change if you were the pauper?