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yes, there are personalities, but, please do not teach them to stereotype.

You're reading too much into this, I think. Bad kids do exist. Be compassionate, but do not encourage involvement with them.

I have really really profound regrets about not doing this myself, with my kids.

I'm curious to hear more if you're willing to share. I have two young kids and think about how to approach the tension between open to everyone, not seeing people as "bad" or enemies, versus the reality that some people can be mean, heartless, etc., and it's ok to avoid them.

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> the tension between open to everyone, not seeing people as "bad" or enemies, versus the reality that some people can be mean, heartless, etc., and it's ok to avoid them.

I don't think there's tension in what you're saying: Yes it's very much ok to avoid people when they're being mean, heartless, etc. At the same time that doesn't mean they're "bad" or enemies.

For philosophical consistency, one should therefore not hang out with your own child if they are bad.

exactly. unconscious bias is an observed psychologic phenomena and i have my doubts if an adult can opinate agnostically about all of them. sure you don't want your kids getting together with bullies but that's basic compassion. let them tie/explore with people freely

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