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Not really. Most people's aversion to things with rejection potential come from unfounded fears of rejection. They believe that rejection will be far worse than it is, have shame-related issues with rejection, and so on.

Concentratedly going out and asking people for stuff is a great way to a) prove to yourself that rejection isn't all that bad and b) prove that sometimes (often) you won't get rejected at all.

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Have you actually done it at all?

Not specifically the "rejection therapy" the article talks about, but I've done similar things - such as spending a few solid days cold-calling local businesses and asking them to sponsor a film.

Conditioning works. It works in martial arts - Krav Maga and MMA both have variants on the "stand there and get hit" drill, and it does indeed teach you to be less afraid of being hit. It works in the PUA world, and generally in becoming better at talking to the opposite sex. And it works in rejection therapy. Do something that's likely to get you rejected a lot, do it for a fair while, and you'll come out of it less afraid of doing things that might result in a rejection.

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