Im not sure about the facebook stuff your talking about I also thought using lightbox and Getsatisfaction the way I have is ok.
Header was never ment to offend, its was just a bit of fun. As most people would assume I am not implying that you die if you use this service. Has also been replaced.
I put the site together in a few days and design is not my strong point. The orignal diary type design is shown here: http://www.webdesignerwall.com/tutorials/design-watercolor-e.... I have permission to use this stuff, including the 404 page.
I honestly dont expect a HN user to use this site, its more geared towards people that havnt got a clue what wordpress or tubmlr is.