Ask HN: Mom Sent a TON of personal info to WRONG gmail account. Any options?

Actually contacting someone at Google is notoriously difficult, and unfortunately, it's intentionally difficult. At their scale, there's no way Google could provide support for all the countless billions of people using their services.

In some ways, Google is fairly bad about following standards. On normal mail servers, if you send to a non-existent address, the server will reply to let you know about your mistake. Google doesn't do this. The reason they don't has something to do with their spam handling, and the costs of spam handling, but it's still against the conventions of email to not let people know that the address they used doesn't exist.

If you are really lucky, the wrong address your Mom used does not exist, and the message she sent was never saved or seen.

The only way you could test if the account exists is to try registering the mistaken address.

Well, I've possibly lied a little bit; Google supposedly saves everything, including spam, so even if the email could not be delivered since the address doesn't exist, google may still have a copy of the message sitting somewhere.

If the mistaken address is actually real, then attempting to track down and contact its owner might be helpful. The odds of success are bad, but it can sometimes work. Call me overly optimistic, but I like to believe most people are good and would help you out.

Good Luck!

> At their scale, there's no way Google could provide support for all the countless billions of people using their services.

Google does not deserve such charity - plenty of companies with far more customers have figured out how to support them, Google explicitly chooses not to.

Fedex, UPS, DHL, Apple, Facebook, Twitter, Microsoft, Amazon, eBay, Wal-Mart, Pizza Hut, Dominos Pizza, MacDonalds, KFC, Burger King, Subway etc, just off the top of my head.

You can literally talk to United Airlines, one of the most incompetent companies in the world, and get a response and resolution.

A single ticket on United costs far more than I'll ever pay for the gmail service I use on a daily basis - this might well be true even if you take into account revenue from ads I click on. Facebook aren't exactly known for being responsive to this sort of customer problem either.

Google's worth 40 times what United is so obviously their margins are just fine.

Or there market is much greater?

Either way they are making more money than most companies and choose to provide less support than shitty companies.

My recommendation is to relax and think about how incredibly unlikely it is that that information went to the tiny, tiny, tiny, tiny, tiny subset of humanity that can and might use it against you.

If you are really concerned you should research the recovery process for affected customers when companies are hacked and lose massive and broad sets of customer information.

You should not bombard them with scams and spam to get your mom's old email blacklisted, that is an overreaction and most likely you will just cause the other person inconvenience.

Send a few more emails from the same account with obvious scam-attempt material.

E.g. You've been selected as our daily winner. You will be rewarded a brand new Apple Phone 5!! Visit here to claim: <insert fishy URL>

Maybe they'll notice all the others from the same account and mass delete them all without opening the rest.

Wow that is a very original idea! Some risk of pissing off the person if they have already read my email asking for a deletion. And they would know my mom's company as it all came from that and complain or something. Worth the risk you think?

I'd try being polite first. Though spamming the account might work for getting everything sorted as spam, it does not delete the problem message and it will anger the account owner. If someone made a simple mistake of sending you something, and then bombed your account, you'd be rightfully angry.

If you want help trying to track down the owner of the account, contact me privately (email in my profile).

This is a brilliantly clever approach. Kudos! Due to the complexity of the spam filtering at google, it would take a good deal of know-how to successfully get the sending address black-listed (and all messages from it sorted as spam), but it does seem possible.

Is there a risk that this would increase the account's "spam score" with Google, and future emails might get unnecessarily flagged? I have no clue how they determine what's spam, just something to think about.

Take the email address and search on Facebook, LinkedIn, various blogs, etc. At the least you could be re-assured if the person looks like an upstanding citizen. And if you reach out on a trusted social network, the person might actually respond. It might also send a "I know who you are" type of message. But don't be too persistent, you're probably just freaking the person out. And if you upset this person, well they have your info.

Also, go ahead and get set up with an identity theft monitoring service. You'll know the instant a new credit line or address change is made.

Like others have said, the vast majority of people have no interest in identity theft. You realize that as a manager I have access to hundreds of applicant's passports, driver's licenses, etc.? You know how many people see your social when you apply for a mortgage? Ever considered how many average restaurant servers could steal your credit card number?

Anecdotally, I sold my car to a dealership which years later I realized had my social security card and birth certificate in an obscure compartment in the car. Probably the worst documents to lose. Nothing came of it.

I upvoted and tweeted about this just so we raise the possibility that you get a good solution to your problem.

Even if you manage to reach Google and they somehow delete that one email from that guy's inbox, how can you know that he hasn't already saved the information? So, instead of trying to solve this from the gmail side, why don't you look at the other one? Contact your bank, let them know and have your card numbers and passwords changed, start the process of getting a new passport maybe and in general "protect" yourself by making the information that guy has useless.

But I agree on the "relax" part too, I mean, how many of us would take such an email seriously? Chances are he/she thinks "Oh, those Nigerian Princes are advancing their techniques..", laughs at it and marks it as spam.

If it reaches someone, that is - and it's quite possible it doesn't.

But, yeah, my advice would be to let everyone know and eventually make all that information useless.

Good luck and let us know if something happens! :)

thank you and all others.

my family is all in different countries so the passport renewal situation is difficult at the time. but we will definitely do that asap. finances are less of a concern, no CC info was passed along - it's more being prone to ID theft.

about the inbox, well in an ideal world, we could make a case to google to delete the emails. but the more realistic hope is to reduce the uncertainty in the situation - is the stranger an active user or is it one of those dying accounts? from which country?

anyway thanks all for the suggestions. i will try to communicate some of this perspective and optimism to my mom over the phone.

Did you try creating a new gmail account with that email? If you succeed, it means no one ever received those documents :)

unfortunately it's taken and even tied to a backup AOL email (i clicked the "forgot my password" just to see if there'd be some number or alternate email. the AOL email is shown, but only as i*l@aol.com.

I'd also suggest searching her sent mail to see if any previous mails have been sent to the said id.

but i agree with other comments here, and wouldnt worry 'too' much.

maybe you can send a kind mail informing of what happened, and request to delete the same.

~B

This is less dangerous than your mom losing a folder with all of that stuff in the train. Which would be worrying, but not "in a panic" worrying. As others have said, relax.

(In case this is the question you were asking: there's no reliable way to hack into any of the major e-mail providers that I know of. Getting access to another's account is highly unethical, not to mention illegal; it's unlikely to reduce the number of problems you have, especially if the risk is less "caught for being a foreign spy" and more "identity theft".)

> there's no reliable way to hack into any of the major e-mail providers

I'd argue that the "forgotten password" forms on most major e-mail providers is a trivial way to hack them.

In particular if you can research someone. Like if you can cross-check the e-mail address in google, then find a Facebook, which gives you more info which you can leverage again for yet more...

Obviously unethical and illegal. But reliable.

Hardly reliable, not everyone puts everything on the web/Facespace.

I deleted that paragraph before posting for a reason; you may or may not want to consider that next time.

Send an email to the erroneous email address you sent to originally. Say that you are recalling the previous email, that the email was sent in error and ask the recipient to keep the contents confidential, delete the email and any copies of the information contained in the email.

Word it nicely but firmly.

I am NOT a lawyer, ...

If I received this email, I would probably delete it immediately. I probably wouldn't reply to any follow up messages either, I'd just delete those as well.

No advice here, just letting you know what I would have done if I were the recipient.

Just curious, why wouldn't you respond?

I've just been conditioned to not respond to claims over email that someone needs help. That said, if the email linked to a legitimate company that I could look up, I might call someone at that company.

In the U.S., at least, there are many contexts (speaking very generally) where an acknowledgement de facto increases your risk.

One being that it can provide the pretext for legal action, such as a lawsuit.

Even if you've done nothing wrong, this can impose a significant burden upon you. And, given our legal system, there's no guarantee you'll come out vindicated -- or whole (e.g. financially), even if you "win" and are "vindicated".

P.S. And so, by extension, some people decide that if they do not understand a context and its implications, the best default action is to forego acknowledgment of it unless compelled.

Just relax. The chances of some random email address's owner being an identity thief is incredibly small. Not everyone is capable of abusing those documents.