I would love it if I could choose which server to sync from. This option used to exist, but they removed it. But that would only solve the performance penalty of replication.
To their credit, the MongoDB folks have been stellar. I had a hardware failure a year ago and the CTO ssh'ed into my machines to figure out what was wrong. This time I'm having a bit more difficulty getting the problem fixed, but it's understandable as I have 100GB of highly variable data.