Regardless whether Adria was a male or female, her actions - dragging SendGrid (and claiming they backed her action) - into this mess, left SendGrid with little option.
So let's not over react with these claims of over reactions? And I don't agree PyCon over reacted either.
Adria made a bad decision and PlayHaven was the only party to over react, IMHO.
And the internet is just being the internet. Same as it ever was for the past years.
Stop trying to make this about sexism - it's not going to happen.