We, the people, reserve the use of violence to those we collectively appoint to help run our society. This is necessary in order to protect the rights we grant ourselves. How would you propose to protect what you see as your property rights without violence? Oh that's right, it's only violence when other people do it, not when you do it.
We, the people, impose taxes (extortion! LOL) in order to provide collective services we all rely on.
And I disagree both that democratic government is parasitic or that expansion of the state and state power are necessarily the aims of all democratic governments.
So I absolutely can and do disagree that all states have those characteristics, that your ideal stateless existence is free of them or that all of these things are necessarily negative. Sorry. It really is a matter of opinion and viewpoint.