I wish your title were "Obsessive Parents" or "Obsessive Immigrant Parents". I am Asian. I am an immigrant. I am a parent. I am also a son with Asian parent. But I was also a Professor at UCLA for nine years so I had met quite a few students with Asian parents, Jewish parents, Iranian parents, any kind of immigrant parents or just plain parents. My observation is that your predicament is not unique. Irrespective of race and culture, every parent tries to learn from their mistakes or try to compensate for their own limitation. The world is changing too fast for all of us. Parents might act like we know the answers, putting pressure and expectation on our kids. In realty, we are scare of the future just like everyone else. This is true for any parent, especially immigrant parents.