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All you really need to get laid is a willingness to eat humble pie while you climb the social learning curve.

It's simple: smile, make eye contact, show interest, ask questions. You will probably feel like an idiot. Repeat until confidence outweighs fear. If you're smart, use your brain for wit, not for showing off.

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My female friends also tell me: "Tell her she's beautiful!" Apparently, most girls use this as the litmus test for whether a guy is into her. If he doesn't find her attractive, or isn't willing to say so, she won't find him attractive. This even seems to apply to girls that are already sleeping with you: they'll ditch you for a guy that compliments them more at the first opportunity.

I haven't had a chance to test this, since I'm still ignoring the first 4 steps. But I have on occasion accidentally made certain friends develop a crush on me by offhandedly calling them pretty. So it seems to work fairly well.

I think that only works in the case that the female is insecure, in other words only about 99.9% of the time, so be careful with this technique.

Also, I need to lose about a hundred pounds and do something about my jebediah beard.

Appearance I find is not a huge factor... If you excude confidence and know how to talk, you will still get laid.

It's true!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ydpl0bgL_Kw

Not necessarily. Or rather, this works more for males than females. As Eddie Murphy once put it succinctly, "But you gotta be beautiful too. I don't want no funny, ugly bitch," or something like that. I find that appearances usually matter more to males than females.

The ladies are not fond of awesome UNIX beards.

They're not fond of it, but I'm saying it's something that can be overcome without resorting to shaving off your luscious chin-mane :P

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