Your whole post drips with resentment-fueled bigotry and ignorance, making me wonder if you're fighting for attention at your workplace or whatever, feeling unloved. Here's an internet hug. Hugz.

Many years back I -- a new graduate employee -- was chatting with my boss, who was a part owner of the company/president. He had five kids, or maybe even six. He asked me when I was thinking of having children (it was still too early for me, but just as a conversational thing), and my honest answer was that I didn't know how he could afford it.

He then told me about an Arabic parable or the like that each child comes with a bag of money.

That seemed counter intuitive to me, but my life has proven it out. I now have four children, and I would wager good money that I know more current technologies, in much more depth, than you do.

If you have the capacity, having children has a profound ability to make you focus: While I am the same intellectual being, like the vast majority of developers I was absolutely pissing time away before children, and I doubt I passed even 5% productivity. Slashdot was the Reddit of the time, and doing asinine, meaningless implementations for days on ends was just a normal day. And I know this is the case for most developers.

Now I don't have time for the bullshit. I focus specifically on the things that yield success, in the most efficient manner possible. I'm still only maybe 15% productive (still piss away a lot of time), but the result is my own company, a lot of success, etc.