The Year of Dressing Formally (2008)
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"Business suits" fall into the category of "lounge suit" which is considered informal dress.[2]
60 years ago, wearing anything other than a suit and tie was considered informal. Even just a tucked-in shirt without a tie and black pants was informal dress.
Men commonly would be seen in business suits; and usually wore hats as well.
Living in Seattle helps.
That's how you get tourists with sweatpants and fanny packs outside the Florence Duomo.
Semi-formal and formal wear are practically the antithesis of functional and comfortable.
Personally, I have been making an effort to dress up a step or two, but I have to balance this against carrying more changes of clothes for my various activities outside of work.
Solve for `x < 20`.
Also, you could just be averse to a perceived waste of money, even if you could afford it (my case).
It requires three layers when often one is more than sufficient. It comes with a noose that fits tightly around my neck. It comes with shoes that have no grip. To keep the cuffs just-so, one wears tight bands just below the bicep. The pockets are easily distended and thus barely useable (I miss the 80s, when a distended suit pocket was the sign of that most ugly of status symbols, the mobile 'phone). Easily smutted, one must carry an umbrella or yet another layer to protect it from the rain.
Still, it pays well...
You're certainly right though, quality material and a cut that fits you well is fantastic. I have a few nice polos that I got tailored as an experiment, and they are now some of my favorite shirts. I would have more tailored, but it's $20 a pop and that's only if the shirt already fits me fairly well- which most shirts don't.
It's a question of construction decisions, not quality. For example, what fabric does it use? My denim jeans hold up to falls, rock, and dirt much better than light cotton slacks. What is the stitching pattern? Are there reinforcements? That sort of thing.
if your body changes, it's no longer going to fit.
Yup, I've been running into that problem. Thankfully the "problem" is that my biceps are stretching my sleeves, so I can feel good about said "problem".
Being rough on clothes is another matter altogether though.
Instead, the ideal seems to be to tread a fine line between casual wear and formal wear. Properly fitted clothing is important here- a suit is too formal, loose jeans a bit sloppy, but dark jeans that are tailored to fit are perfect.
This makes shopping in the women's section very difficult- I usually find casual-wear for women a bit inappropriate for work (clothing is often too sheer and unlined, too clingy, or necklines too low), and clothing marketed as office-wear would make most assume I was a secretary or in advertising/human resources/ect. A mixture seems to work well. Rather than dressing up casual clothing, I find more success dressing down nicer pieces. For example, a nice dress with a denim jacket or a silk blouse with jeans and flats.
My male friends seem to have a similar problem shopping, in which clothes that are made for casual wear are more casual than they would like, but then there is a huge gap from casual to much too formal. Men's clothing doesn't have the problem of many causal clothes being too revealing, but there is also quite a bit less variety available.
TLDR: Ramble about trying to find appropriate software developer wardrobe that has nothing to do with the above comment. Sorry.
My official nomination for quote of the day.
"Among other things, Mr. Flusser has led me to discover the value of the male garter for holding up slouchy socks."
I'm not a developer or in "tech" in the pure sense, and I know this depends on the "culture", but I'm also on the East Coast and a bunch of our devs have Bow Tie Tuesday and really get into it. May be a geographic thing as well: I'm as like as not to wear dark jeans, nice shoes, a button-down, and a blazer on weekends.
And it isn't cheap. If you shop around, you can find a reasonable suit for under $500, which is still a fair amount of t-shirts and hoodies. However, the key to dress clothes more so than quality is fit—you should have all your suits tailored to fit you, and that's another $100 or so between jacket, pants, etc.
'Moving parts in rubbing contact require lubrication to avoid excessive wear. Honorifics and formal politeness provide lubrication where people rub together. Often the very young, the untraveled, the naïve, the unsophisticated deplore these formalities as "empty," "meaningless," or "dishonest," and scorn to use them. No matter how "pure" their motives, they thereby throw sand into machinery that does not work too well at best.'
I usually wear tees and jeans, but I recognize that formal wear has a place.
I'm surprised you made such a snarky response, when you said something very similar in another thread:
"I think, that as techies, we are in a unique situation, as far as intellectual development is concerned. The vast majority of the population can't appreciate technical phenomena because it is culturally viewed as "too hard" or "robotic" or "blah blah, boring". We, OTOH, actively refuse to engage with humanistic pursuits, but not out of any perceived difficulty so much as discomfort with the pretensions that come with "cultured society"."
And please, tell me how "if you strip away the pretensions from these things, more people would take to them" is the same as "the pretentiousness is necessary and the untraveled, uncultured, blah, blah, don't understand that, because, you know, uncultured".
I'm with Zuckerberg, and Jobs with his 'uniform' on this one: most of that junk is a complete waste of your time. The only winning move is not to play. You don't have to wear just sweatshirts and jeans, but pick stuff you like and get on with life and stop worrying about it.
"supposed to"? According to why? And what gives this amorphous "they" any standing to dictate such a thing?
Fuck that... I like to dandy it up and rock the "two and a half piece" suit look sometimes (that is, waistcoat and - in my case - a cravat, but no outer jacket), but I do it because I like it, not because somebody says it's what you're supposed to do. And the rest of the time, this 40 year old sees no reason not to wear jeans and a Twisted Sister t-shirt.
In the neighbourhood I'm known as "the bathrobe guy with funny facial hair", so I get you. I don't want attract people around me who will judge a book by its covers, but majority people I interacted with are living in that cave. It is pretty oblivious to walk around and think that your appearance doesn't matter to substantial number of people you do business and socialize with.
If you want to leave appearance of laid-back honest doer, that's fine. Not all people do.
That's actually a damn good idea. The picture that is there now is just one I picked because it's a halfway decent picture. I'm not terribly photogenic, so I usually try to avoid having my picture taken at pretty much all costs. If I had a good picture of myself in jeans and a T/S t-shirt, I'd switch it right now.
As soon as I can get a new picture taken, I'll do it though.
It is pretty oblivious to walk around and think that your appearance doesn't matter to substantial number of people you do business and socialize with.
Oh I don't think it doesn't matter to some people, I just try very hard not to think about those people or their opinions. Maybe if I would "play by the rules" more I'd be richer or more successful or whatever, but it's just not worth it...
After all, as they say
Getcha a 3-piece Wall Street smile and son you'll
look just like me
I said "Hey man, there's something that you oughta know"
I tell ya Park Avenue leads to Skid Row.[1]
[1]: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VJrbHapH5pMPeople typically care more about the respect of their peers than the respect of random people in general. Wearing a suit among software people doesn't make you look "professional", it makes you pretentious at worst and just a bit weird at best.
I'm probably overreacting, but your post really reads like "you should wear less comfortable/more expensive footwear because I don't like looking at what you currently own", and that sort of thing kinda pisses me off.
Traditionally made welted shoes are neither more expensive over the long haul or less comfortable.
At this point, I'm not going to purchase any brand new Eccos using my own money, but as long as they keep giving me free pairs I'm happy to wear them. Others in my family have had similar experiences with Rockport and Clarks. I think most people just don't bother trying to take advantage of workmanship guarantees.
Good suits that look good are expensive. I don't want to wear daddy tier suits, but good looking suits I've seen run well over $500.
And this in an Amsterdam broadcasting and advertising company, the kind of place that makes the way people dress in tech start-ups look conservative.
After two weeks, people would stop making remarks. After a month, people stopped consciously registering it. It was just the way he dressed.
It takes balls and requires your coworkers not to be total dicks, but people can pull it off.
Buy vintage. You can get an $800 suit for $40 at Goodwill. Treasure hunting is fun. Seriously.
Make light of it. I call it "Fancy Friday" and sometimes refer to it as a "ridiculous affectation" or "grown-up cosplay". People get used to it and now comment when I'm not dressed up on Fridays.
You do realize that's exactly the impression your habit conveys, right?
It's also a sort of camouflage. I blend in very easily. I like that.
It worries me that so many hackers use the delusion of "solving big problems" to justify their often self-destructive lifestyles.
This does, however, remind me of one of my favorite scenes from the wire: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QJn-9TP7uUM
This is the crux of the article, and he provides no proof to back it up.
The article says that this is an "experiment", but how did the professor log his activities? How did he measure the change in his student's perception? How did he isolate the variables of his own bias vs. the impact of new clothes vs. the impact of formal clothes?
My personal opinion is that fashion is a gigantic waste of time. In any and all venues. Clothing should be first and foremost for utility. Part of that utility is creating a personal brand, which the author has stumbled upon here in his "experiment".
While I'm not a fan, Steve Jobs had a great outlook on this, and is well known by his jeans-and-turtleneck look. This is an amazing insight into clothes in my opinion: Jobs found an outfit that worked, and then simplified everything in his life related to clothing. Image how easy laundry, the decision on what to wear for the day, moving, and ownership of clothes would be if you had a single, standard type of clothing to wear? Imagine how much easier it is to standardize social interactions with other people around you? You'll never have to worry about wearing 'nice' clothes again, because ALL your clothes are exactly the same.
> My personal opinion is that fashion is a gigantic waste of time. In any and all venues.
I'm not sure what you mean by waste of time. Do you mean it in the sense of, "Not something I would prefer to do?" Or do you mean it in the sense of, "Ineffective for all purposes?" One of these two meanings is demonstrably false.
> While I'm not a fan, Steve Jobs had a great outlook on this, and is well known by his jeans-and-turtleneck look.
I think Ryan Gosling's character in Crazy, Stupid, Love had a great outlook on Steve Jobs' outlook on fashion. "Hold on, are you the billionaire owner of Apple Computer? No? Then you've got no right to wear New Balance sneakers, ever." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZwjcpEEkPs
You are correct that his anecdote doesn't actually prove anything. I rather doubt this is news to anyone, including the author.
In my own (one person, non-experimental) experience, it significantly changes the way people interact with me. That can make a huge difference over time.
Unless it's a T-shirt with some image that relates to your personality.
I'll pay for a service where I can dump my clothes and they'll produce identical new and fitted items.
In my life I bang on keys all the day long, and keys don't care what I wear. What could change?
The undertaker at the pet cemetery only buries dead animals, why would they care what he wears? The answer is because other people exist.
> I only interact with colleagues and I can't imagine them
> caring what I wear.
We do. We don't tell you, and if we're any good we don't show it, but we notice and we draw conclusions about you.I'm comfortable at being more or less adequately dressed comparatively.
But yeah, I feel /weird/ dressed formally, and I see that as the primary problem I am doing this to overcome. I will probably keep my standard dress informal[1] after I get used to the suit, but being able to switch contexts is a good thing, and will likely be pretty interesting.
I mean, the point here is mostly to get over me feeling weird about formal dress, and I think for me, it's mostly the suit that feels weird. Also, I think leather soles are hazardous, and I have no actual respect for people who judge other people on shoe quality.
[1]current uniform is black cargo pants (moderate expense, "tactical 5.11" brand; reasonable expense and quality, lots of pockets. very convenient for datacenter work; one pocket is for garbage, the rest for tools. Kinda shapeless and baggy, though.) and a black 'prgmr.com' logo T shirt, with very old "Cove Matterhorn" brand boots that have seen years and years of abuse, and several motorcycle accidents. I also have a thin, unkempt 'homeless man' beard and generally only cut my hair when it starts presenting a hazard by blocking my vision.
This could be a copyright nightmare though.
The social engineering aspect of dressing formally was especially interesting. By dressing formally in formal class, then "dressing down" for one-on-ones, he was able to put students much more at ease. (And they also starting emailing him beginning with "Dear Professor" instead of "Hey")
I'm not a suit guy by any means, but in some situations this life choice could make a lot of sense.
The truth is I am having a difficult time fitting nice shirts, pants, and shoes into my lifestyle. Less because I am lazy, and more because boulders and bicycle cranks and dirt are hard on nice clothes.