I like the part about paying attention to the words that come out of the persons mouth and hanging on their every word, instead of implying that the way a woman looks is the only basis on which she decides to like you. In fact, I (this is my personal opinion, maybe other females prefer the exact opposite, for I have no statistical data on this) feel much more validated, especially in places like work and friends, pretty much anyone but my SO, when my presence and my contributions are validated on my capabilities, personality, and pretty much everything but my looks.
If I feel that I am getting any kind of special treatment based on my looks, or being a girl in general, it makes me feel uncomfortable and self conscious, it often tends to reverberate negatively in the work place (especially as a female engineer in a male dominated engineering company, like mine, and the two I have worked for/interned for previous), and provides more venues for people to blame any accomplishments and/or advancements one may make in the work place on things other than your capabilities. So perhaps NICK that entire sentence and it sounds pretty good :D Oh and welcome to the new millenia.