>We are not in a war, no matter what some say

I guess it depends on your perspective.

Maybe you aren't, but hundreds of my good friends are, at the behest of the president that, assuming you are a US Citizen, you had a part in electing (also, assuming you are a part of society).

So the people who actually fund and execute wars think "we" are at war. I would say that should pretty much settle it.