Wireshark or similar network sniffer. Any phone-home is going to require using the usual channels to get out of your location to the general internet. Things like TEMPEST require external sniffers; an autonomous agent will have to use what is going to be available, and your modem isn't going to be transferring custom protocols... and if it is, then the ISP's equipment probably wouldn't. And if all three units are, well, things are worse than we could have imagined, but you'd be talking about a conspiracy that would require the silence of an incredible amount of people.