Amy Webb: How I hacked online dating
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In Silicon Valley, the guy they usually want is a hunky fireman of an appropriate age who possesses the build of a 20-something who works out constantly and has a portfolio that would give an East German Olympic weight-lifter a hernia. The woman who wants this man is in her fifties, but claims that she's in her forties, is using photos from her thirties, and really should be on multiple forms of psychiatric medication. She hates her job, wishes to get married as soon as possible, and rejects all the men she meets.
To the presenter - I thought I'd seen/heard this talk before, and I was right - she gave this talk as a TedX talk about a year ago and has since published a successful book about her search.
I'm glad that she figured out what was actually important to her. I hope that she has chosen her parameters wisely and will have a lasting marriage because of it. (I also sincerely hope that her husband had gone through a similar exercise.) However, being the cynic that I am, I suspect that what she thinks is important now will not be what she finds important three to fifteen years down the road. One of the things I noticed that she was looking for was a mid-30s (I assume) male who had never been married. She probably failed to take into account that there's probably a reason for that.