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Cool advice. Now please tell me about an industry where "drinking with the guys" is not a central part of the networking/socializing needed to have a career.

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In recent months this year I’ve been arrested, charged with a DUI ... become a borderline alcoholic

She has been drinking and driving. This is not just peer pressure, this is unforgivable.

Yes, victims are often traumatized after an event like this, and it causes them to make poor decisions later. That doesn't invalidate the assault. Consent is consent.

I blame the boss for a whole bunch of things but where it gets to the point of getting drunk and then getting behind a wheel and killing me or my friends, that's where the victim turns into a criminal without forgiveness.

Your level of unconditional forgiveness becomes an excuse that I cannot accept.

According to the post, she was punished by the law for that (DUI). What else are you asking for?

There's no mention of punishment, only arrest. I'm asking, insisting actually, she doesn't drive if she is going to do drugs. Getting sober is a better request but I cannot make her do that, she has to find a way herself.

She says she went to jail.

The two incidents are separate. If she drove drunk, she should face the music. That doesn't excuse previous sexual assault. This thread isn't about Justine's DUI.

Furthermore, psychological trauma is a thing.

And if she ran over a pedestrian while intoxicated? Hey, maybe Joe was acting out because of a traumatic event in his past?

Look, I can sympathize with her because of what she's been through, but that doesn't earn her exoneration or excuses for her "bad decisions".

Nice ad hominem, but it doesn't address my question. Also, what you are taking out of context here is the author describing her life falling apart after this incident, not her behaviour before the incident.

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