paypal and x.com were a great example of what can happen through a merger. they could have spent their time killing each other, but they merged and set their focus on much bigger things: taking advantage of ebay's mismanagement and poor execution to deliver the world's leading online payment platform.
private acquisitions seem strange, but i have always believed that the real reason large companies cannot form from start-ups is because people may be too resistant to team up with their leading competitors to take on an even larger competitor. i wonder what would become of microsoft had they not teamed up with ibm, or apple.