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Thanks for the picnic idea. It's not fair on my part to assume entirely that she would pay on her own, but I would not take her out to an expensive restaurant on that assumption alone. She was capable of paying and threw a fit, I left.

However you seem to act on your own assumptions, so save your judgement for when it matters.

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Dude, you write that one of your desirable qualities is you're "well off". Yet you won't pay. Lol

She's well off as well, yet she won't pay? Lol

I think the previous poster's point is that being well-off is really not much of a net benefit to a partner if said resources are of no consequence to the relationship or the partner. If you're both at a good economic situation yet going 50/50 the fact that you are also well off doesn't mean much to her and might even register negatively due to social conventions and expectations.

You mention several qualities that are generally perceived in a positive light, but one of these is also a willingness to to share resources, especially in a male/female relationship, as far as I understand it.

Not on the first date with a complete stranger that I have no ties to beyond a phone number.

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