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mrintegrity

Works with online dating too.

"Would you like to go out some time?" bad

"I really like you, would you like to meet?" terrible

"Let's go out at the weekend, <barname> is really great" good

"I am free Tuesday and Friday, let's get a beer and continue this conversation in real life" good

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I humbly disagree. Dating is different because rejection is felt more keenly -- by the asker and by the typical askee.

If a man does as you suggestion, he is making the woman reject him multiple times if she does not want to go out with him (which is the most common case) and he is putting the conversational burden on the woman to explain whether the rejection is only because she has plans that particular weekend.

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