Focus less on: * Comparing them to you * Changing them

Focus more on: * Identifying and leveraging their strengths * Position your self as a Silvers type leader. Be a first follower to any of their ideas that you think can be tweaked to hold water.

That last one may be non-obvious. Learning to be a first follower promotes humility in yourself, supporting others, and showing others how to lead and follow. When others lead their 'laziness' (I hate that word) begins to dissipitate.