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I feel like they are a 'waste of time' as well since I could be using that time to become better at my programming skills. But my BF is addicted and it seems the only way I would be able to spend time with him is by playing video games with him and his friends, but my whole being resists it.

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My oldest son appeared "addicted" to video games at one time. When he got enough out of it, his behavior changed. So that may not be hopeless.

As a divorcee who spent all my time sitting next to a man who was playing games, watching tv, etc and ignoring me, I don't really recommend you play games as a cheap assed substitute for actual attention from him. It accomplished absolutely nothing in my marriage. If he won't pay attention to you at all, sitting next to him while he ignores you isn't some kind of improvement.

Sorry you are dealing with this.

All the answers here give me hope that my BF might one day tire of the games.

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