They need to make this frictionless...much like Uber. Make an app where I push a button and a 'dateable' girl gets delivered as soon as possible to a bar of my choice for an instant date. She doesn't have to be from nyc.
The meta: know what you really want. Sex, companionship or kids: select up to two adjacent goals. Pick all 3 if you have a second condo and a burner phone.