She was engaging in a personal relationship with the founder's spouse as well as a sexual relationship with a coworker. How is that not asking for jealousy related drama ? Does it really matter how that drama eventually manifests ? I don't think so.

I'm just trying to hold her to the same standards that a male would be held to.

There's a double standard out there. Single women are expected to sleep with coworkers and if drama arises then it's not their fault, but men are expected to refrain from sleeping with coworkers and if relationship drama arises then it's always the man's fault if he dipped his pen in company ink. Your remark "grow up" is merely a logical fallacy used to conceal this double standard.

The "banging" was mentioned in the techcrunch article so it's definitely on-topic. How do you know that the other woman's jealousy was not aroused by Julie's projection of sexuality into the workplace via her demonstration of willingness to hook up with employees ?

When Julie hooked up with an employee she was demonstrating that in general she's willing to hook up with employees which put her on the other women's radar as a potential personal/political rival. I seriously doubt the other woman would have felt threatened if Julie's romantic foray hadn't come into play..

Again.. a reasonable guy would never have made a post about this kind of thing on hackernews instead he would have just accepted the drama as the consequence of his risky choice to engage in romance in the workplace. He would have just bit the bullet and moved on. Julie on the other hand is wilding out and she comes off as an unprofessional drama queen.

well, the founder's wife has some issue with Julia. The story sounds like a fight for a position of an alpha-female. That gives non-zero probability to the idea that either Julia's partner may have been of some interest to the wife, or Julia's behavior toward the founder looked like a challenge to the wife.

There's a huge difference between startups and a huge corporation!! think small teams. I'm not saying it shouldn't be done at all I'm just saying one should expect drama in the workplace after you decide to cross over that rubicon, especially in a software startup