All anecdotal arguments aside, the premise that more government is the only avenue for reform (held by yourself and other "progressives") is why both sides can't seem to agree on anything more than the idea that reform is needed. Around 40% of the American health care system is already managed by the government. The idea that we have a free market health care system that is failing the less fortunate in our country is downright false.
In Obama's current plan, there are plenty of free market solutions to expand coverage and bring down costs that are being ignored and avoided (some due to lobbyists and special interests and others by, IMO, power-hungry politicians with a deeper, anti-capitalist agenda). Furthermore, there are plenty of examples of unintended consequences from prior government policies (with good intentions) that have created some of the problems we have today. Without going into the specifics or giving your last sentence a serious thought, I would just like to say this: Both sides (for the most part) have good intentions so let's not paint each other as evil.
Here's a good place to start to understand the other side: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142405297020360920457431...