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> The partner that was attacked was a girlfriend. Not a company partner at all.

Many people have switched to saying 'partner' for all relationships to help demonstrate their support for gay marriage.

> Everyone wanted to see proof.

He already pled guilty.

> Why is this particular instance difficult for women in tech?

Well, it's an example of someone's incredibly personal abuse story possibly being shown to millions of people against their will.

Also, he was the CEO of a tech startup, and the tech startup media did all the reporting on it, and all his investors literally said 'congratulations, I'm glad this is behind you' after he pled guilty.

> Why not everywhere?

Something can be a problem in a certain industry, and also in general. Both statements can be true.

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> Also, he was the CEO of a tech startup, and the tech startup media did all the reporting on it, and all his investors literally said 'congratulations, I'm glad this is behind you' after he pled guilty.

Still has little to do with gender bias. The investors are there for the money. I've seen companies keep known alcoholics around because they provide enough value for said company to deal with it.

The issue isn't that it happened, it's attributing it to simple gender bias. It's dishonest.

Nobody is claiming that it's cause is simply bias. It's a particular instance of the general structural issues women face.

men face the exact same issues. It's akin to women complaining that they have to purchase gasoline in order to make it to work daily. So do men, why is that something the women are rallying around?

If men and women face the same issues, and women are working towards fixing those issues, I'm not sure why you're so upset. Isn't that positive?

I think the travesty is how quickly you choose to mis-characterize me as being upset for no other reason than the idea that I disagree with you.

Can we be more honest than that?

"He already pled guilty."

Looks like someone didn't bother to click through to the meaty articles about that point. The police dropped all charges against him, and he plead to a misdemeanor with a fine.

Imagine this... You find out your partner of who knows how long, has been having unprotected sex for money for (I think the article said years). I say she deserves a beating if that was true. In my book, she's throwing dice around with his life/health. And if they have kids, she's messing with their future and well-being as well. Horrible, and just goes to show that sexism is alive and well, but not as they portray it. Because we're up in arms about a guy smacking around someone who happens to be female, because she put his life in danger.

People on the internet love being outraged. And this article is just fanning the shit around even more to further their cause. I feel for them, and there might even be true discrimination out there against women, but attention seeks like the ones in this article are doing them a disservice. If not out right mocking them by using their problems for personal PR.

> I say she deserves a beating if that was true.

Just want to emphasize that sentence there.

Because you don't have a response other than to cherry pick sentences that sound bad out of context? Go right ahead, buddy.

> Because you don't have a response other than to cherry pick sentences that sound bad out of context? Go right ahead, buddy.

You have a context that makes domestic violence acceptable? I sure didn't see it in your parent comment.

Engaging in unprotected sex with multiple partners while pretending otherwise with each is akin to playing Russian Roulette... with someone else's life.

Man or woman, yes, that sort of behavior deserves a beating.

That sentence sounds bad in any context, don't try to weasel out of it.

What, because it's in reference to a woman? Everyone's so smitten and keen to come to their aide, like shining white knights. But if it comes to a man, you would have no problem about it. That is the real sexism that no one wants to talk about, and it's rife in this thread. Endangering someone else's life deserves a beating, man or woman.

Thank you for spelling it out for me. This bit with the inevstors apparently condoning the behaviour is what I was missing.

So what do you think should happen? The man pleaded guilty and paid his due, presumably.

Should his career be forever destroyed?

I'm curious.

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