Apologies are by definition when you apologies for your own actions. To claim that it applies to people based on their reaction or is explicitly for people who reacted a certain way is not IMHO a real apology. This type of conditional apology (called the 'Carey' apology where I'm from http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/my-vile-apology/story-e6frf...) is an apology for the reaction in others, not the act itself.