The French upper class were the first to popularise the idea of adding milk to tea. This was back in the days of Napoleon and fine china, as in from China, was new too.
The reason for adding the milk first was to protect their finest quality china from cracking due to the heat of the tea (the teapots were metal, e.g pewter around that time too).
So, the origins of the milk first idea are deeply rooted in history. If you are drinking tea in 18th century fine china tea cups handed down from your aristocratic French ancestors, then you might not want to experiment with the tea first technique, however, if you drink tea out of a mug then consider the benefits of tea first.
As for whether 'tea first' needs a stir, the answer is not yes. There are convection currents inside the cup that will stir the milk in for you. A helping stir does help but is not always necessary particularly if the tea has cooled too much.
> 3. adding the milk to an already boiling cup of tea burns the milk, ruining the flavour of the tea.
No. The tea has to infuse in the teapot before pouring. Therefore it is not boiling by the time it gets to the cup and the milk can't be 'ruined'.
Unless you are using tea bags, teabags are an excellent innovation, personally I prefer single cup tea bags, tea made in cup with none of the paraphernalia of the pot. If you want a sharp cup of tea with no bitter taste an average teabag in cup with boiling water and no milk yet will work perfectly. No need for lengthy infusion time, add milk, get colour right, squeeze and remove bag, sharp cuppa made.
Orwell gets it wrong regarding the matter of drawing fresh water. Most water contains things that lead to limescale. It is important to draw fresh water so that limescale does not build up in the kettle. Dissolved oxygen levels is cited by some as important, theoretically you are boiling the oxygen out of the water too much if you reboil rather than draw fresh. This sort of makes sense and 'experts' say it makes sense but I have not tested this myself or seen a scientific paper explaining how this works.
A final detail: unpasteurised, fresh milk. Tea made with this 'forbidden fruit' is far better than when made with normal milk. The difference is hard to describe, but, to give you an idea it is like the difference between listening to traffic noise on the edge of a motorway and listening to Handel's 'Zadok the Priest' being sung by a choir in Westminster Abbey.