Commute Does Not Compute

If you work in an urban center, the increased cost of living closer to your job could generate as much (or more) stress in your life than commuting. Also, some people find it stressful to live in densely populated areas (where most of the jobs are).

If you have kids, the availability of better and safer public schools in the suburbs could also be a significant advantage that could justify commuting.

Remote work is a good compromise for those whose jobs can accommodate it, but that's a pretty small fraction of all jobs.