I didn't mean "real life" as something opposed to "living in the network" (whatever that means). I meant "real life" your non-geeky friends tell you to get. Also "real lifers" tend to use social media much more than "nerds" (posting mostly photos of food, babies and such nonsense).
If your non-geeky "friends" are telling you to get a life, I suspect they aren't actually your friends.
Yeah, we tend to self-select out of each other's group of "close friends".