Hurting cows - I just wanted to point out that if you love having cows around, you might be in for a surprise. Without a judgment, just that it might be an unexpected consequence - just as a lot of other actions that seem ethical might actually backfire.
"The evidence (look up "demographic transition") shows that the only reliable way to decrease birth rates is to decrease death rates."
I don't know about that, but I know that in my country (which has a very good welfare system) there is a lot of discussion about the poor and uneducated having more kids than other parts or society. And their kids tend to go the same route, that is, they tend to end up on welfare. That might be sensationalist reporting of our newspapers, though. Also not saying that the solution would be to "curb" the birth rates - you might find a twist to make the kids fare better than their parents or whatever. I don't know - but it makes me wary about incentives and treating everybody equally. People are not equal - I wish for everybody to have a good live and a fair chance (and that includes if you are born dumb - which might mean you can't take advantage of chances, and it is not your fault - but then what if suddenly a lot of people are dumb - a ka idiocracy?).
Also, about the demographic curve - how come human history is a history of war, struggle and genocide? So people had kids because they were afraid their kids might die, but then they didn't die so they had to exterminate their neighbors to get more room to live?
From my experience, not everybody is friends with everybody. I trust your friends from MIT would feed me if I ended up under a bridge, even if in my previous life I had been a drug dealer?
"I don't say people are just deluded, I say they're often confused."
Sure, but how can you make sure that you are right? The cookies example seems like a no-brainer, but maybe it isn't. Maybe the world would be a worse place without cookies.
"not just spout random ideas you have."
That sounds as if you are entitled to an opinion and I am not. Why - because you read more books on the subject than I did?
For what it's worth, I suspect trying to create value is probably the best way to make the world a better place. If there is enough food, people don't need to fight over it. Thanks to technology, normal people can live today as kings used to live in former times. So it seems to me advancing technology helps the most.