> [Siren] allows women to peruse men’s pictures and their answers to the “Question of the Day” (“You found a magic lamp and get three wishes. What are they?”) and view their Video Challenges (“Show us a hidden gem in Seattle”). If a woman is suitably impressed by a man’s answers, she can make herself visible to him. Only then can he see what she looks like.

So they fixed the use case where the woman's photo is exposed, but leave the same problem for guys?

I've had a couple creepy female stalkers, and honestly, would prefer the same protection they're offering women. It's certainly the case that dating sites are dominated by creepy men, but a high ratio doesn't necessarily translate to a lack of problematic female actors. As a side issue, the fundamental gender imbalance of the website actually legitimizes the problematic world view that creates many of these problematic guys in the first place - namely that relations are a game in which women hold the power and they just need to play a numbers game if they want to win, with perhaps adjusting their wording to slip by filters.

Further, I don't think this app actually solves the problem it attempts to: it actually lowers the effort on the part of bad actors, since they only need to maintain one profile rather than messaging many women. I'm not sure how they're proposing to have women sort through a large number of profiles that are made by bad actors any more than they could sort through a large number of messages made by bad actors, nor do I think that filtering the profiles is a fundamentally easier task than filtering the messages would have been. (Actually, I think the opposite: that it's easier to make a misleading profile than a misleading message.)

Glad to see another sexist project pitched as a solution to social problems.

Ed:

I actually want to tone down my comment a bit, but will leave the original wording as is. I don't mean to condemn the authors, because they're addressing a complicated and sensitive issue without any known solutions. That being said, while I think their hearts were in the right place, their execution seems to focus primarily on /their/ issues, while completely ignoring the issues faced by the other side of the equation. Programming things that solve your problems and not other peoples is hardly unique to this case or a new development (heck, it might be the hallmark of software), but it's disappointing in this case, because they clearly have many well thought out features, that unfortunately, I'm completely unable to take advantage of to solve my problems or my issues with online dating.

Let me say that again: the inherent sexism of the app is particularly disappointing, because while it does many of the things I'd want in a dating app, it refuses to let me use them and instead frames me as enemy-until-proven-otherwise.

I just don't understand, at a fundamental level, why both sides don't have their pictures hidden and only be allowed to interact via their video/question/etc interface until both sides approve. (Well, I have one conjecture, but I'm reluctant to ascribe it as true: that they're tacitly admitting women want eye candy, not just personality, and that their app isn't meant to serve the interests of men.)