>Do you have evidence for someone being branded sexist for merely not bending over backwards to prove that they aren't?

Maybe not a specific person or event, but would the constant demand for "diversity reports" from tech companies from the "tech media" not be an example of this? And the subsequent shaming by the same media of these same companies for having too many penises in the office, or too few vaginas?

I apologise for the vulgarity of the above, but that's what it is when it comes down to it.

I've seen conferences called out for having too few female speakers. They made talk choices based only on abstracts, not on speakers, and ended up with a higher percentage of female speakers than had submitted. When they informed the person who called them out, they were then effectively told they weren't doing enough, and directed to a web page that told them they need to do more to encourage female submitters, such as doing the things they were already doing. This occurred over Twitter, and I'm not going to dig up looking for it (it happened about a year ago).

I realize it's not exactly what you asked for, but it was a clear case of "guilty until proven innocent."

Does Dr. Matt Taylor count? Or Brad Wardell? Or maybe that PyCon guy with the big dongle?

They usually don't call you out on it, but they respond as if they're defending the position of women should be in tech, which is not the issue.

I've experienced this personally.