Pay yourself a higher salary. If you're paying yourself less than 80k, bump it up. When you're selling stock, you're usually talking about tens of thousands of value at the minimum. Founders and especially employees shouldn't seek to take money off the table because it rewards them for hitting the wrong milestones. Fundraising is not the goal -- a sustainable business is. They should get rewarded for the latter and use the former as a source of fuel to achieve it.
"Secondly, every round the founders lose more and more control. They should be compensated for this."
They are compensated for this in the form of their net worth skyrocketing come fundraising event. Really, the question is should they receive liquid compensation. Sure, it would be nice for some risk to be left off the table, but if you signal to people that you're selling your own stock, what does that do to the employees mentalities? The cost is higher than the reward.
"One of the big problems with venture capital these days (and the reason I won't take it anymore) is that it disrespects the founders by demanding liquidation preferences for the VCs."
I agree! If the stock is liquid, I see no reason why VCs should get preference... the only thought that comes to mind is that they wouldn't invest if the preferred treatment didn't exist, or that the funding market would be significantly smaller. Remember... VCs are paid a lot to mostly lose money.