i've obviously misread what a TOR hidden service is then (and how connection are established between two end points), will go read again later.
my current understanding is even though an IP Address might not be connected to me personally, all the routers in between me and the destination server know that my IP wants to connect to dest IP . Thus there was some communication between my IP & dest IP at some time, and is in a log if routers keep logs (or any other device that is physically connected to the same physical path that my packets took)
Sounds like TOR hidden services don't create breadcrumbs like this then.