Sorry it made you feel defensive. Maybe you missed the fact that most of the posts before mine were quite harsh and critical. Compared to the remarks I was seeing before mine, I think my post was quite kind and evenhanded.

As for "short sighted", sometimes the best way to get to tomorrow is by making it through today. Growing pains are inevitable. It is not a question of "if" it hurts. It is a question of when and how. The things which smart tend to be somewhat personal and unique. What bothers you might not bother me and vice versa.

Peace.