"Preallocating memory is usually an opimization for throughput."Still, 200kB is excessive. A program with buffers no larger than 10kB can _easily_ saturate a 1 Gbit/s NIC. Hitch is designed to handle many concurrent connections, so even if it handled a paltry 10 connections it could easily saturate a 10 Gbit/s NIC with 10kB buffers. If not, then there is a design flaw somewhere.
"Servers can have up to 1TB of ram without becoming overpriced"
This is irrelevant. If a Hitch version had a default overhead of 10kB per connection, it could in theory scale to 20x the number of connections than this version of Hitch, for a given amount of RAM (no matter the amount). Maximizing the use you get out of a given amount of hardware resources should be your priority when writing scalable software.