> Add to that the fact that in most dating sites the analogy of men to women is at least 3 to 1

I've never actually seen this proven. Did you scrape profiles? OkC staff have repeatedly claimed that the ratio is around 50/50 for major metro areas:

http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/older_lover/Age-Distribution-With...

https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-male-female-ratio-on-big-f...